Is my ‘vortex’ protecting or limiting me?
From "stop recycling?" to "why am I so weird about meeting new people?" My brain is a wild place.
I think of my best friend as someone whose advice I really take to heart, almost like a parent in some ways – her opinions really matter to me.
So, she said something a bit odd, like maybe stopping recycling, I actually thought about it seriously because it was coming from her.
She told me to stop recycling and moving around in a close group.
With a little insight into why she said so; I’m the kind of person who usually meets new people through my existing friends. So, my world is mostly made up of people my friends already know and trust, and also who meets new people through my friends. This means my world is mostly made up of people who have already been approved by my inner circle. I feel good and safe around them because they're part of my familiar ‘vortex,’ my cozy bubble.
But whenever i meet someone new, someone who isn't connected to my group, I automatically feel a bit wary of them. It's not necessarily because they've done anything wrong, but because they're outside my safe zone. They haven't been ‘approved’ by my friends, and they're not part of our shared history.
This feeling of distrust it's not about the new person being bad; most times it's more about me feeling secure and comfortable within my vortex. My safe space, and anyone outside it feels a little unknown and a little untrustworthy at first.
While this sometimes saves me the trouble of meeting some unusual people, it has also limited my exposure to new perspectives, ideas, and potentially valuable connections outside my current circle.
So I’m learning and trying to understand why I do this and how to form new relationships outside my circle.

Honestly, this is how growth begins. Stepping outside familiar patterns and “social containers”. And I admire and envy that you have a circle where you feel safe but sometimes comfort can become a boundary. And true to your words, when you expand beyond your vortex, you bring in more light and color into your world.